Portrait of a Godly Woman

PORTRAIT OF A Set-Apart WOMAN

There are many women today that are Followers of Yahusha[Name of Son of Yahuah/YHUH] and look to serve YHUH. However, many, like myself, were raised knowing of the women’s rights movement…. While I believe that Women should have certain rights, the Bible has specific guidelines as to how a woman should behave.

I know many a woman who rules over her husband in their relationships. And all too often we hear women say, “No man is going to tell ME what to do”…. And other phrases that go along with it. The truth is women are very rebellious these days.

What does the Bible, YHUH’s infallible Word, say about an Honorable Woman?

Proverbs 12:4

“A worthy woman is the crown of her husband; But she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.”

Proverbs 31:10

“A worthy woman who can find? For her price is far above rubies.”

The Word says that her value is more than that of rubies. The purest form of a ruby is pretty rare and pricey. Apparently they are hard to find, for it asks “who can find?” It also says that she is a crown upon her husband’s head. What do we commonly use crowns for? Royalty, yes that is correct. So a “worthy” woman is one that makes her husband proud, and feel like a King. But it also says that a woman that makes her husband ashamed or embarrassed, is like rot in his bones. Having rot in your bones must be pretty painful, and does not make one feel like Royalty at all.

Proverbs 31:11

“The heart of her husband trusteth in her, And he shall have no lack of gain.”

It goes on to say that her husband has complete trust in her. Trust is a very valuable thing to have. So she does nothing that makes him pull his trust from her. He doesn’t need anything else if he has a trustworthy and Honorable wife. “He shall have no lack of gain” meaning he is not lacking anything at all. He does not need riches or splendor.

Vs. 12

“She doeth him good and not evil All the days of her life.”

What does it mean to do your husband good and not evil? How many times have you done something out of spite to “get back” at your husband? How many times has a woman lied to her husband or hid things? A good and loving wife will do good to her husband all the days of her life, meaning that she is nurturing seeing to his every need with much joy in her heart. She is faithful and obedient to him bringing delight and honor to his heart.

Proverbs 14:1

“Every wise woman buildeth her house; But the foolish plucketh it down with her own hands.”

In this passage, the word “house” is referring to her family. A wise and Honorable woman is going to build up her family with love, and nurturing kindness. She will make sure to meet their every need. We can see these virtues in the following passages as many of the things she does for her family are listed:

Proverbs 31:13-31

“She seeketh wool and flax, And worketh willingly with her hands.”

We see here that she will seek out materials so that she can make things for her family no matter if it is clothes or blankets, or other house hold items. Today, this would be the equivalent of sewing and hand crafts.

“She is like the merchant-ships; She bringeth her bread from afar.”

She will travel to take her family their meals. Now of course during those days the journey was an easy walking distance because they either lived in the town that they worked at, or they would work the land they live on. Today the travel is much further with modernization, so the wife makes meals for her family to take with them for that day of work. (i.e. school lunches for each child [unless home schooled] and a lunch for her husband as he goes to work)

“She riseth also while it is yet night, And giveth food to her household, And their task to her maidens.”

From as far back as I can remember, up until she passed, I can remember my grandmother having breakfast ready by the time we woke up in the mornings. It was no small breakfast either. She must have woken up very early, before the sun was even out. This is what is described here. The wife will get up before anyone else and start to prepare a meal to break her family’s fast so that they could have a good meal before they started their days. Now, today only rich people have maids, yet in that day it was very common to have servant girls. And the wife would give each of them their chores for the day so as to get a “jump” on it I guess you could say.

“She considereth a field, and buyeth it; With the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.”

She is smart, and can evaluate a piece of land and if she sees what she likes, she buys it with her own earnings (I am supposing that she would get these from selling her goods, i.e. clothing, food like cheese, milk from live stock, eggs etc… this is of course separate from her husband’s earnings). She works the land and raises up plants that yield different kinds of food for her family. A vineyard is commonly a place where they will grow grapes or other sorts of fruits that can be turned into wine (back then fresh good wine was like fruit juice, fermented wine was considered to be bad wine). This woman is not afraid to get her hands dirty and she takes pride in what she does. Today, there are few women that actually tend to a garden to raise food for her family, because it is so easy to go to the local grocery store and buy it there. Also there are many women today that refuse to do any dirty work.

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She girdeth her loins with strength, And maketh strong her arms.”

What does girdeth mean?? It is derived from the word gird. This particular word has four different definitions. When you take the context of the sentence we can take the third definition which means, to equip or prepare. So she prepares her loins with strength and makes her hands strong. She is very vigorous about her work and works hard on it. This is not a porcelain doll to be carefully put on a shelf. This woman has a strength about her. While she is still weak compared to her husband, she is not a dainty fragile woman afraid to break a nail.

“She perceiveth that her merchandise is profitable: Her lamp goeth not out by night.”

She knows that what she does for her family is a good thing. She does not grow weary doing

so, and as such she will work into the night to get her work done. She also may sell things that she crafts with her hands. For example, if she is a seamstress she may sell clothes, sashes, and women’s veils a few days a week if she works in the town, or she more commonly may have sold them out of her home.

She layeth her hands to the distaff, And her hands hold the spindle.

Spindles are used to make twine, and string even yarn, depending on how tightly spun the material is, and what it is made of. (i.e. cotton, wool, silk…etc…) So this verse tells us that she made even the string, thread or twine that she used in making cloth items for her family. The thread yielded by a spindle can be woven into fabric and even used as the thread to sew the fabrics together to make clothes. A Honorable woman does not necessarily have to work with a spindle and distaff, it refers to the fact that she does know domestic skills such as sewing, cooking, cleaning, crafting etc….

She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; Yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.

This woman is very selfless. She does not have a greedy bone in her body, and will willingly with a compassionate heart give to those in need before keeping for herself. Many today will go and give to the poor and needy just to get the recognition that comes with it. Yet a Honorable woman seeks no self recognition at all. She is completely satisfied by knowing with in herself she has done as Elohim YHUH commands to give to those in need without expecting anything in return, even if it is only recognition. She knows that the only recognition that matters is that of her Precious Adonai.

She is not afraid of the snow for her household; For all her household are clothed with scarlet.

This woman knows not to let other things distract her from her domestic duties to her family. She may be very good at selling merchandise to others, yet she never has to be reminded that her family comes first above all others, except our Abba Yahweh, He of course comes before even our husbands. But no worries, if you are honoring and taking care of your husband then you are doing the Father’s will and finding grace in His eyes.

She maketh for herself carpets of tapestry; Her clothing is fine linen and purple.

Again we see that she takes care of her own home first. She makes carpets, quilts, curtains and so much more for her own home. She also takes her gift of a talent and makes sure that she is also dressed nicely. She will make herself clothing that is both modest yet attractive (pretty) so that she does not look as though she dresses in rags. I am sure that she kept some sack cloth around for the days of fasting for her family.

Her husband is known in the gates, When he sitteth among the elders of the land.

A Honorable wife/woman earns her husband respect as well. She is well behaved, and mannered tending to her duties daily at the house selling what she can after providing for her family. And her husband is at the city gates where he most likely conducted his business as well. I am also sure that she made him very noteworthy looking garments to wear out as he did so.

She maketh linen garments and selleth them, And delivereth girdles unto the merchant.

As mentioned earlier, she is very good at what she does and sells them out of her home, yet she is careful to never neglect the needs of her family first.

Strength and dignity are her clothing; And she laugheth at the time to come.

A Honorable woman holds herself with dignity as she is not going to act in an embarrassing way. She also takes heed to provide a back stock of everything that her family will need so that she does not have to stress during troublesome times and she can “laugh at the times to come.”

She openeth her mouth with wisdom; And the law of kindness is on her tongue.

As a Honorable woman, she thinks and carefully chooses each word that precedes out of her mouth, so that she speaks nothing foolish. She does not use foul language or harsh tones. She is wise so she speaks things that will give wisdom to others as well. She does not make herself look stupid. She is always very reserved and sweet in her tone and kind in her words. This woman would be a joy to speak with as you would not have to bleep out every other word, and would never feel belittled in her presence. I am sure that when she needs to use stern words as a parent, she does so in the same manner only using a firmer voice. If the problem requires harsher discipline then she would speak privately to her husband, who is head of the house, and he would deal with the matter.

She looketh well to the ways of her household, And eateth not the bread of idleness.

Since her husband is away during the day with other affairs, it is HER duty to watch over the house, NOT his. So she watches over all affairs that deal with her home, live stock, gardens and vineyards, etc… Her house’s cleanliness is also important to her. She is very tidy and even when she has completed cleaning the house she finds something else for her hands to do that is productive for her household. She is NOT a lazy person. She does not laze about and let her house become shabby and messy.

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Her children rise up, and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praiseth her, saying: Many daughters have done worthily, But thou excellest them all.

Her children are very respectful to her and do not disobey. They bless her, not curse her. Her husband will also have praise on his lips because of her, telling her that she is the best wife in the world. She out does any other woman in his eyes, so that the others do not even compare.

Grace is deceitful, and beauty is vain; But a woman that feareth Jehovah, she shall be praised.

She is not vain, or arrogant. She does not look at her own beauty, though she may indeed be very beautiful. She does not rely on her own grace to get her praise. She puts all of her love and heart on Yahweh, fearing Him and obediently following His laws and Word. This alone gives her praise.

Give her of the fruit of her hands; And let her works praise her in the gates.

A Honorable woman’s reward is ultimately a gift and honor given by YHUH in eternity. Though, she also receives the gift and fruit of a “job well done”. She not only blessed by her husband and children for her works, grace, and holiness, but her reputation also precedes her to the “city gates”. This being said, a Honorable and well behaved woman who lives by and practices Psalms 31:10-31 will undoubtedly be well respected within the community. Even so many that are unbelievers today, still will look upon a Honorable woman with respect, not because she is YHUH fearing (remember they do not believe) but because her Holiness shines out through her wise words, kind tongue, and domestic skills. She is not judgmental or self-righteous

Now let’s give a little more support on the way she would dress herself. While the scriptures say that she dressed herself in, “fine linens and purple,” we must remember that a Honorable woman always dresses modestly.

1 Kefa [Peter] 3:3-4

Whose adorning let it not be the outward adorning of braiding the hair, and of wearing jewels of gold, or of putting on apparel;

The Word clearly states that a woman’s appearance should not be flashy. Women of that day would braid their hair in a single braid sometimes to keep it out of their faces, however most of these wore head veils to cover their hair. Therefore, I do not believe this means not to braid your hair at all. But instead, it means that the Honorable woman does not go out of her way to style her hair in a way that draws attention. She does not wear and excessive amount of jewelry, as this too draws much attention. Today, women commonly wear jewelry and do not give a second thought to it. However, if we are to be Honorable women, what is okay and what is too much? I personally, and it is a personal preference, only wear my wedding ring and the matching necklace that my husband got me. Both are dainty and hardly noticeable when you are not right next to us. It also says that a Honorable woman does not put on apparel, this could mean clothing, accessories, etc… anything that draws attention. When you get dressed in the morning, what is the first thing you look at? Most female will examine their back side to see if it looks “good.” I know when I was a teenage girl I would spend five to ten minutes in the morning making sure that my clothes looked “good” on me. I would spend forever making sure that my make-up was just right, so that it didn’t look like a painted my face, yet you could tell I was wearing it. I now know that the only reason that this is done is to draw attention to one self. Otherwise, a Honorable woman will dress herself to look nice, yet very modest, not showing any unnecessary skin, no tight fitting clothes, and if she must wear make-up it is done in a modest way so that it is hardly noticeable at all.(YHUH knows the true intentions of one’s heart and roots behind doing these things)

Vs. 4

but let it be the hidden man of the heart, in the incorruptible apparel of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of YHUH of great price.

As said for verse 3, a Honorable woman will take care to dress modestly with a meek and quiet spirit, which means that she is shy and this is honorable. She does not want to draw attention to herself, she is for her husband’s eyes alone. She does not even show acknowledgement if someone (male) gives her a compliment, save if it were her son saying that she looked nice that day, however this is a different situation because it was not made out of a lustful heart. If a man, other than her own husband compliments how she looks, this is shameful for a Honorable woman, because she knows that she is for her husband only.

1 Timothy 2:9

In like manner, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with braided hair, and gold or pearls or costly raiment;

Again we see that a Honorable woman does not adorn herself with precious jewels or gold or any expensive raiment. Raiment can be described as any sort of apparel that is used to decorate oneself. The Honorable woman dresses modestly and it even says that she has a shamefacedness to her. This means that she is bashful with downcast eyes. She never looks straight at a man, as this could be seen as a sign of rebellion, or it could even lead her to see something that she ought not to. For example, it is inappropriate and unHonorable for a Honorable woman to look upon a shirtless man. She is to only see her husband. Today this is not seen as harmful for so many men can be seen running around with no shirt, and it is accepted. However, as daughters of the Most High YHUH, we should keep our eyes averted from such a sight. For if one is not of a strong heart, she may not look away immediately and repent, yet will keep looking and lead herself to adultery in her heart.

A woman is even to veil her head during the times that she is praying or prophesying as a testimony to the Angels.

1 Corinthians 11:5-7

But every woman praying or prophesying with her head unveiled dishonoreth her head; for it is one and the same thing as if she were shaven. For if a woman is not veiled, let her also be shorn: but if it is a shame to a woman to be shorn or shaven, let her be veiled. For a man indeed ought not to have his head veiled, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of YHUH: but the woman is the glory of the man.

We are told that when a woman prays or prophesies without a veil on her head then she is dishonoring herself and should make her head to be shaven, or her hair cut off short. This is dishonorable to women, so the Word says to let her head be veiled. It is shameful for a man to veil his head, because from the beginning he was made in the glorious image of YHUH (any men reading this please don’t get too much hot air in your head, remember the rest of you came into this world through us women! LOL). The woman however, as we know, is the glory of man because she was formed from man’s rib.

Vs. 10

…for this cause ought the woman to have a sign of authority on her head, because of the angels

This sign of authority on her head is that of her submission to her husband. We will cover submitting to our husbands in a minute. This sign to the angels shows that she is in agreement with Yahweh’s order of rank. She is basically saying to the angels, (also called messengers or sons of YHUH depending on the translation) I accept that I am my husband’s wife, a lowly woman, with my husband as my lord (over ruler, the term “my lord” refers to our husbands, or someone over us. It is different from when we say, “My Lord YHUH” remember Yahusha is “LORD of lords”). Sarah called her husband lord, and since we are her daughters by our subjection to YHUH's covenant with us through Yahusha bloodshed, we are to follow the same example. Though, I do not call my husband “lord” I usually will say “my dear husband” or “my love” or something that is purely for him. I will refer to no other man with such a name, save a child.

This leads us into how a wife, and Honorable woman is to behave towards her husband. The Bible says that a woman, or more specifically a wife, is to be submissive to her husband. What does it mean to be submissive? When a woman is submissive to her husband she is ready to be humbly obedient to him without resistance. To submit means to yield oneself to the power or authority of another.

Colossians 3:18

Wives, be in subjection to your husbands, as is fitting in YHUH.

Ephesians 5:22-24

Wives, be in subjection unto your own husbands, as unto YHUH. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Yahusha also is the head of the church, being himself the saviour of the body. But as the church is subject to Yahusha, so let the wives also be to their husbands in everything.

Vs. 33

and let the wife see that she fear her husband.

This tells us to be in “subjection” to our husbands, JUST as we are to YHUH. Just as we fear YHUH, shall we also fear our husbands. Subjection means the same as to submit. Now this does not mean that we are to worship our husbands, we know this because YHUH says “you shall have no other YHUH's before me for I am a jealous YHUH.” However, this does mean that just as we submit ourselves to the will of the Father, we are to submit ourselves willingly to our husband’s will. YHUH has made our husbands our head, or over lord, because Yahusha is our husband’s head, or over Lord, because He is the savior of the body (Church). So ladies, don’t be discouraged, obey and submit to your husbands because you Love YHUH Yahusha, and want to submit to Him in all ways. And remember, they have the same ultimate boss we do, so they are not off the hook scot-free.

1 Peter 3:1

In like manner, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, even if any obey not the word, they may without the word be gained by the behavior of their wives;

A Honorable woman will always submit to her husband even IF he is an unbelieving soul. We should not let ourselves act unHonorable and rebel against our husbands just because they do not believe or fully know the Word of El’ Ohim. We are supposed to always follow our Lord’s laws for us. We are to live by example of our Yahusha. Our Faith with good works can and may be won over by seeing their obedient wife. We can be the leading to their salvation through love and obedience. As stated above, Sarah called her husband Abraham lord.

1 Peter 3:5-6

For after this manner aforetime the holy women also, who hoped in YHUH, adorned themselves, being in subjection to their own husbands: as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose children ye now are, if ye do well, and are not put in fear by any terror.

We see that being submissive to our husbands as Honorable women should be, we are adorning ourselves. This adorning cannot be seen outwardly as jewels or pearls or gold, or even fine linen, yet it is the adorning we are building up for ourselves in Heaven. As we obey YHUH’s will and Word, we are storing up for ourselves in Heaven treasures. This adorning is also Honor and Respect. Though neither can be seen, both are very valuable.

1 Timothy 2:11-15

Let a woman learn in quietness with all subjection. But I permit not a woman to teach, nor to have dominion over a man, but to be in quietness. For Adam was first formed, then Eve; and Adam was not beguiled, but the woman being beguiled hath fallen into transgression: but she shall be saved through her child-bearing, if they continue in faith and love and sanctification with sobriety.

Again, we see that a Honorable woman holds onto her submissiveness and her quiet spirit, meaning she does not speak where it is not permitted. She is NOT allowed by any means to have any authority over a man, and again she is to be quiet, meaning she is not to speak out against a man, namely her husband. It is this way because Man was formed first in the image of YHUH, then woman formed from man. Eve was the one that allowed herself to be fooled by satan, she fell into temptation and opened the whole world to sin because she disobeyed YHUH. Woman is saved though through bringing children into the world and raising them up knowing and following YHUH’s Word. Do not worry, those of you who do not have children, I do not have children either, yet YHUH knows my heart, just as He knows each of yours. Yahusha made amendments to the first covenant when He gave His life. So His blood covers our sins as long as we continue on in Faith and Love and sanctifying our self with a sound mind on YHUH’s Word and Yahusha’s Promise then we are saved.

1 Corinthians 14: 34-35

...let the women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but let them be in subjection, as also saith the law. And if they would learn anything, let them ask their own husbands at home: for it is shameful for a woman to speak in the church.

Whoa! I know I am going to get a lot from those of you who are against this, yet if you call yourself a Daughter of the Most High, then you cannot. It is YHUH’s law and authority that women are not to even speak while in the churches. I am sure that a woman teaching a group of young children or youth within the church is fine because that is one of the many duties a woman of YHUH has is to teach the next generations of YHUH, His laws, and such. According to this scripture, she is to remain in subjection, or submission, even while she is in the church(we are talking of the building here) They are supposed to seek their council from their husbands if they have questions. Though there is nothing that says that a woman is not to seek out YHUH and His answers for her directly. Mostly this passage, if taken into context with the rest of the Word, means that a woman is not permitted to speak in the church under leadership roles. For those of you who love Joyce Myers and such, I am sorry, according to YHUH’s Word, she is not allowed to be the head of a church. It is shameful for a woman to be the head of a church. Here is a perfect example of how a woman is to be in a church. Many times where I have seen the elder pastors preaching, you will notice that their wives to not speak unless permitted to do so by their husbands (i.e. an invitation to the pulpit to make an announcement or something) You will see the wife sitting quietly and respectfully in a chair off to the side of the pulpit or in one of the front pews. Commonly, in today’s churches you also see women behind the piano. Now please to not be offended with me, as I am not saying it is unlawful for a woman to speak at all while at the church, I believe that this passage is pertaining to when they are in the service of the church. During the afterwards of communion and fellowship, and even before when some churches offer breakfast it is fine for a woman to speak, as long as she maintain her Honorable qualities mentioned earlier. As a woman myself, I know that many women are known to gossip. They will talk about so and so, and who did what, and such. We all know what gossip is, though some would like to defend that they are not gossiping. Though unless they are speaking praise of someone, then they are gossiping. If you are a woman who has this problem (if you are not sure ask YHUH to give you conviction) then it is better for you to not speak at all in church than to trap yourself into sinning. Gossip is a form of slandering another. The Word speaks against this.

1 Timothy 3:11

Women in like manner must be grave, not slanderers, temperate, faithful in all things.

So if we are Honorable women at home, since we are to be faithful in all things then we are to be Honorable when not in the home as well. A Honorable woman is to remain grave, or honorable. She is not to defile her own honor with slander or gossip. She also must be temperate, or vigilant so that she is not caught in a trap of gossip. I have been around women that will try so very hard to get you to partake in their gossip. I had on person in particular that would always start off with, “I know you are going to say this is none of your business, BUT let me tell you ANYWAY” I would walk away and not listen to it.

Proverbs 14:1

Every wise woman buildeth her house; But the foolish plucketh it down with her own hands.

Again we see that a Honorable woman is wise. From our earlier scriptures we know that a wise

Honorable woman is going to be reserved, honorable, and shamefaced. She is always going to see to the needs of her house, family. It says that she will build up her house. Let us not say that she physically builds the house board for board, brick for brick, stone for stone. Commonly, the man is who physically built the house. No in this passage it is referring to her family. She will build her house with honor, providing every need that it needs. Remember, she maintains the house when her husband is away during the day, so she attends to all affairs that go along with it, like taking care of animals, garden, children, cleanliness of the house and much else.

Now it says that the foolish woman plucks, or tears, it down with her own hands. When you have a slanderous, insubordinate woman on your hands, she will tear down her very family. She rebels against her husband’s will, therefore not bringing him honor, and probably stressing him out greatly. Her children will have no respect for her and run all over her for lack of discipline, her home will look a shamble(not all cases but we are trying to cover every base here) and she will be known by the towns people to be a slanderer or gossip. She knows everything about everybody and blabs her mouth about it to whoever will listen. She does not submit to her husband and this leads to many arguments, which today leads to many divorces. The reason that there are so many divorces today is because people are not YHUH fearing and do not lay their foundation on Yahusha. If a marriage is not centered on the Word of YHUH then it will fail, because most women today think they are in charge of everything and they are not going to listen to any man. Remember that the scriptures say that a virtuous woman is hard to find, saying she is more valuable than rubies. Well it also says that a Honorable, prudent woman is a gift from YHUH to her husband. What does prudent mean? There are two definitions, and both fit the Honorable woman. The first means that she is wise, discreet, and sober. The second one means that she is careful in providing for the future. As we have learned all of these things a Honorable woman does.

Proverbs 19:14

House and riches are an inheritance from fathers; But a prudent wife is from Jehovah.

See the husband gets material inheritance from his earthly father, however his wife, if she be a Honorable woman, is a gift from THE Father. Everything about her is a gift, from her Holiness to her body.

Proverbs 5:18-19

Let thy fountain be blessed; And rejoice in the wife of thy youth. As a loving hind and a pleasant doe, Let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; And be thou ravished always with her love.

In Songs of Solomon 4:15 we see that his beloved is compared to a fountain.

Thou art a fountain of gardens, A well of living waters, And flowing streams from Lebanon.

So this is saying, “let thy [wife] be blessed.” Our husbands are to rejoice in having us, be we Honorable. Even our breasts are made only for nursing our young, and for the pleasure of our husbands. I am as confused as you ladies, I too, do not understand what is so “fantastic” about them at all. It seems, however, that YHUH has hard wired it into mens’ minds to delight in their wives’ breasts. As a Honorable woman though, we are to remember that ONLY our husband may see our breasts. Even again, in Songs of Solomon 8:10 we see that the young female, his beloved, knows this and the purpose of her breasts.

I am a wall, and my breasts like the towers thereof Then was I in his eyes as one that found peace.

Another translation says that she “chaste” and “full breasted” and now her lover is “content with her” This does not mean that she had enormous breasts, it simply means that she has reach adult maturity and is fully developed. Yet, she wise to know that her lover takes delight in them. Now this also means that, ladies, according to Biblical scriptures, YHUHs Word, we do not even have the right to deny our husbands our bodies when they desire them.

1 Corinthians 7:3-5

Let the husband render unto the wife her due: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power over her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power over his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be by consent for a season, that ye may give yourselves unto prayer, and may be together again, that Satan tempt you not because of your incontinency.

Have no fears, ladies, for your husband does not have power over his own body to with hold it from you. But remember neither do we. As he requests we are to yield our bodies to him, and likewise when we request of his body he in like manner is to yield his body to us. This says that the only time that it is right for husband and wife to with hold from each other is when they both come to agreement to abstain for a short time to devote in prayer to YHUH. But they are commanded to come back together immediately after that spell of time so that satan cannot tempt their flesh to adultery. A Honorable woman allows even her body to be a blessing to her husband (no big heads ladies, for it is not a privilege you give him as we just read, it is his YHUH given right, just he is our YHUH give right).

Let’s recap and end with some more scripture. A Honorable woman is wise and she chooses each word from her mouth carefully, speaking only wisdom and kindness. She is skillful and uses these domestic skills to provide anything she can for her family. She is strong and not afraid to get her hands dirty. She is modest and shamefaced, not adorning herself with flashy things to draw attention, yet she still provides and clothes herself in fine linens and purple (this is considered a royal color). She provides for her family first but shares her earnings with those in need as well. She is honorable to her husband, even earning him respect for her reputation precedes her. She seeks YHUH on all levels, seeking to do His will with clean hands and a pure heart. We can tell this by all that is described of a Honorable, virtuous woman in the scriptures. A Honorable does not speak out of place or where she is not permitted. She veils her head for a testimony to the angels as she prays. (NOTE: a veil does not necessarily cover the face, only the head and hair.) She submits to her husband even with her body. Finally, a Honorable woman will teach all that she has learned and held in her heart as a Honorable woman to younger women so that they will love and fear YHUH and their husbands. She teaches them to love their children and hold all the Honorable qualities that she does.

Titus 2:3-5

…that aged women likewise be reverent in demeanor, not slanderers nor enslaved to much wine, teachers of that which is good; that they may train the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sober-minded, chaste, workers at home, kind, being in subjection to their own husbands, that the word of YHUH be not blasphemed.

We see everything that we have discussed about a Honorable woman in these few verses. These verses alone sum up what it is to be a Portrait of a Honorable Woman. For if we follow and value these qualities the rest will just fall into place. Remember to be honorable…

Proverbs 11:16

A gracious woman obtaineth honor; And violent men obtain riches.

By these things we can tell if we are Honorable women or if we need some work. I know that after this study I have found many areas where I can use some work. Though I am not rebellious, I have to crucify the flesh that tries to rise up from time to time. Most of that is because we are raised in a society that teaches women’s rights to girls and teaches them that they don’t have to listen to a man. This is satans ingenious design to deceive man/woman. So please, if you are reading this and YHUH has laid conviction on your heart for any reason, repent, seek forgiveness and ask that YHUH help change your heart to that of a Honorable Woman’s heart. Let us be blessings to our husbands and not a curse.

Proverbs 19:13

A foolish son is the calamity of his father; And the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping.

Have you ever had a leaky faucet that just won’t stop dripping? It drives you mad if you have to sit and listen to it all the time. Well just as annoying as that is, a contentious wife is compared to it. Contentious means quarrelsome, she just argues all the time. She is rebellious. Women are good at complaining and nagging at their husbands and the Bible even says that this is annoying. In fact, it even tells us it is better if our husbands are not around us at all if we are contentious.

Proverbs 21:9

It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, Than with a contentious woman in a wide house.

So it is better for a husband to live on the corner of a housetop with no shelter and little space, very uncomfortable than to be inside the vastness of the house with a contentious woman. We see this again in the same chapter further down.

Vs. 19

It is better to dwell in a desert land, Than with a contentious and fretful woman.

Again we see that it is far better for a husband to retain his soundness of mind if he lived in a desert land. There is little to no food or water, no shelter, and it is probably blazing hot in the day and cold at night, yet it is still better for him than to be with a contentious and fretful woman. Why would he want to be around something that just complains and wants to fight all the time? She refuses to submit to him and does not do anything out of love because she genuinely wants to do it for her family, but does it (if at all) because she feels she has to and complains (whether out loud or to herself) about it all the time. She will say spiteful things, try to manipulate things to go her way, and make you feel sorry for her.

So the question is, do we want to be Honorable women, pleasing to our husbands and therefore pleasing YHUH? Do we want to be a wife that brings a smile and great honor and respect to our husbands? Or do we want to drive them to the corners of the house top and desert places with our rebellion and nagging unHoliness? Do we want to be a curse to our husbands? (I don’t want to hear that he deserves it, because if you claim to be a woman of YHUH then you will act Honorable no matter how your husband acts. Granted, I do not believe that a woman is a man’s beating bag, yet if she strikes him, he has right to put her in her place [it would only take one strike, and not that hard] and defend himself.) Nowhere in the Bible does it say that it is forbidden to strike his wife if she gets out of line. It says to love his wife and protect her because she is the weaker vessel. But ladies, you may clearly disagree with me, but if you put yourself in a man’s position and hit you husband then he has every right to slap you, whether it be on the arm or across the face. Though like said before he does not have to put full force into it, just enough to get your attention and say, “KNOCK IT OFF!” The husband is allowed to chastise his wife just s he would a child if she acts as one.

If you are a Honorable woman, and submit to your husband’s then you should never have to be in a position where you leave your YHUH-fearing-husband no choice but to chastise you. Better to be chastised by husband and be in shock and minor pain for a little while, than to rebel and be chastised by YHUH the Father in hell for all eternity. Now just because you are a Honorable woman and submit to your husband does not mean that you have no rights or liberties. If you are a blessing and crown on his head, he will in turn trust you and give you privileges and liberties. I try my best to be a Honorable woman, and my husband does not control me. Meaning, I submit to him and he always lets me make my own choices. He tells me to use my YHUH given discernment and judgment on the matter. As long as I make Honorable choices he is happy with me. I do not only do this to please my husband, but I only want to please the FATHER, and making Honorable choices does just that. Now when I make a stupid choice my husband will chastise me verbally, but always in a kind voice.

I do hope that you have enjoyed by study. If you feel YHUH has given you anything to add to this please share it with me. YHUH bless you all!

In the Love, Light, and Truth of Yahshua,

Sister Aviela LeviYah

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